Overcoming Comparison As A Style Blogger

Every woman knows “the little voice”. That negative devil on your shoulder, telling you mean things about yourself. Mine often sounds like, “Me… A curvy girl… a plus size role model…Who do I think I am? I’m trying to compete with these other style mavens.” Or it says, “Those girls rock the Chanel, the Gucci, the $900 dresses and get campaigns with stores and brands I could only dream of. Who do I think I am?! I’m not as tall as them, as thin as them. So why do I even bother?”

But the best thing to do is shut down that negative self talk. I always combat “that little voice” by reminding myself that I’m the everyday woman. Because – when you see me, you will see your best friend, your sister, your mother. When you get to know me, you will find a woman that struggles with confidence just like every other woman. You’ll find a woman that pokes at her lumps and scars and says to herself “don’t eat this or that because… (fill in the negative/fat shaming words you think because I’ve said them all). It’s a daily struggle. Really more of a lifetime struggle. I’ve never been a size 2. Add a 1 in front of that number and that’s the smallest I’ve been my entire adult life. I mean, once I was a size 10 for about a year, but I felt like I had to KILL myself at the gym – working out like an addict and eating barely anything. Ultimately, I learned my body wasn’t built to be that size. My body can’t maintain that size. It’s not in my DNA to be a size 10. I’m more comfortable a size or two bigger. I used to think maybe a 12 was achievable but now that I struggle with an autoimmune disease called hypothyroidism, that doesn’t seem like a reality anymore.

So where does a curvy girl go from here? How can you break up with “that little voice”. You must learn NOT to compare yourself, think what makes YOU happy. You must learn that beauty comes in every size, and YOU are beautiful. You must remember that the struggle is something we all have in common, whether it is losing 10 pounds or trying to gain 5 pounds. And maybe even blame a little on your genetics! (Let’s be real, that is the root of it all) When you can understand these things and start to embrace your body with all your flaws, it becomes easier to overcome that pit in your stomach that says you’re not good enough. And trust me, I know that feeling all too well. Even as an influencer and style blogger, I catch myself starting to compare.

I want to thank you all for supporting me. I really love being a blogger and influencer because I want to inspire ALL women to find confidence and beauty in themselves; because beauty comes in all shapes, sizes and complexions. We are all so unique! So embrace that! Just imagine, for one minute, just how boring the world would be if we were all the same. Ewwww. The horror!!!!

There is a confident goddess inside all of us. Does she come to the surface all the time or everyday? Hell no. BUT, if we understand our worth and we try to relate to different people, then I’ll tell you…it makes what we do as style bloggers that much more rewarding. The countless messages of love, adoration and appreciation for what I do as a curvy style blogger makes my heart melt. I never knew the power I had to make another woman look in the mirror and say “I’m beautiful the way I am”. So women and style bloggers alike, appreciate your individuality and know that you are not alone. Whether you blog to inspire petite women, or curvy women, or the women who are a size 2, you are appreciated more than you know. So as I say all the time…do you boo. Do you!

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